Evolution of Women & Family

Tutu A was a child born in the mid-1950’s, an era renamed as the “Generation of the Joneses”, or aptly, “keeping up with the Joneses”.  I watched in horror how folks my age “jonz’d” for designer clothing, designer this & that became a competition truthfully I just observed, chuckled, and stuck with my “traditional, classic” business looks and whatever “feminine” somewhat trendy daytime wear.  Women graduating high school, like her mother before her, still aspired for marriage and family as soon as possible with a work life second.

The sexual revolution had already begun before Tutu A came of age in the early 70’s, she enjoyed “the Flower Power” message of Woodstock, not knowing fully the “angst” of the older teenagers, young adults who turned on and tuned out.  My generation was wishful dreamers who found solace in songs of freedom by Joan Baez; warm, gentle lyrics of James Taylor, John Lennon’s “Imagine”, and simple message songs like Carole King’s like “You’ve Got A Friend”.  Many were still “hopeless romantics”, not understanding what the word “hopeless” could really mean.  Karen Carpenter sang “We’ve Only Just Begun” the year Tutu A graduated, not knowing the crippling illness underneath Karen’s love songs.

Tutu A experienced all genres of music from Motown to Disco, Revel’s Bolero (fantastically played out in Bo Derek’s movie “10”) to The Who’s TOMMY & most classical pieces, anything live.  Her mother introduced her to music and taught her to listen to the beauty is most any music.  But there is a ying & yang effect for all things….ALL THINGS.  

Steven Stills of Crosby, Stills & Nash created some deeply meaningful “poetry” that saturated into this era’s music.  Who does not think of a little Barry White music now & again???….okay, I get it, no one remembers Barry White.  Look it up and listen.  During the mid-1980’s to ‘90’s harmony bands returned, acapella, and that seems to be the beginning of what blends we hear in music today.

Is Madonna still relevant?  She was a woman with whom many found inspiration, maybe not so much any longer.  “Ray of Light” was her last phenom-type hit.  It was inspirational.  No longer “thirsty” as the young ones say these days.  She has been “adulting” (yes that is now a word) way to long to get into those depths of her soul for profound music.  

Music aside, women have more history that reveals strong women to watch and learn.  A true Connection through Communication is what calms the human heart.  Through literature to television, the works of Shakespeare, the War of the Roses (not excluding the updated version with Michael Douglas & Kathleen Turner, who?).  Again, Tutu A prays the words from strong women in history: Catherine of Aragon, King Henry VIII’s first wife to Jacqueline Kennedy, wife of President John F. Kennedy to Ivana Trump, President Donald J. Trump’s eldest daughter & Meghan McCain, daughter of Senator John McCain.  We have much to learn from them. How much has really changed?

Evolution of Women & Family II

We all seem to gravitate toward our stated generation, added with our family & social surroundings, along with that very special individual thing we call “choice”, our “magical direction”, “free will” destined to all humans through eternal spirit.  In addition,  technological advancements furthered to define folks merging into adulthood, where girls become women, boys become men and if all goes the way God or some higher power pre-destined, that folks find a way to couple….Love finds a way, at least that is how the past 60 years seem to have unfolded.

When Saturday morning television was invented, well, parents found a new way to occupy a young one, giving that time back, functionally in ways women would learn the definition of multi-tasking.  Oh my when washers & dryers became the norm, time was given, taken away causing women to actually “think about her own pursuits”, beyond that of a wife & mother.  Rock & Roll, Walks on the Moon, the Internet, of course invented by Al Gore, ex-VP of USA, truly he did try to take credit for that one, LOL

The United States of America is about to celebrate it’s 100 anniversary for Women & Blacks to be given the right to vote.  Those words seem to not seem to mean much, nor do I think many women actually are aware of this very “new” right we have earned in the big scheme of 2017 years of Life.

Evolution of Women and Family III

History repeats and so do our media stories, with a rare story that has yet to be told.  I learned to educate and absorb as much history in order to form a more informed opinion.  Tutu A is a student of a woman’s life, going back as far the end of the War of the Roses 1455-1487 through one of the biggest change in Faith & Religion post King Henry VIII (1509-1547) , the British reigns of Queen Mary, Queen Elizabeth, to Queen Victoria, referencing Hawaii’s very own Queen Liliuokalani (1838-1917) and during the mid 1800’s horrific “pograms*” were sweeping country after country. (* side explanation)  

Tutu A’s family was about to make a decision that would bring about her Life, so it seems appropriate to start at “my” beginning and see what parallels, enlightenment gained, and how these women whose first name began with the letter “A” experienced.  Of course it would be the first letter, the first of those to come.  The OG, the original, sort of.  Ancestry.com can make a person’s brain frazzle when peering into a see of family with the same name all across the board.  In Tutu A’s family, this “A” daughter was given the name from her grandmother and Tutu A validated this phenomenon going back 300 years.  

The meaning of Tutu A’s first name is noble.  How fitting.

What was the catalyst of women’s evolution?  Oft times, it is a person’s spiritual sense of survival.  During these European Pograms, with the object of annihilation of a race, created folks who deeply felt the need to survive.  Tutu A’s relative received a letter of introduction, most likely through a German synagogue or other spiritual entity to find a “mail order bride”.  During this time, the 1850’s women did not have independent choice.  Their mother or father had control over the disposition of a daughter into the world.  Boys were trained to become providers and women to care for the hearth and home, giving her husband many fine, healthy children, especially after watching the murderous genocide from their homeland.

During the time of 1850 to the 1950’s when Tutu A was born, when Tutu A’s grandmother was born & raised, the role of women had not significantly changed.  Yes, women were more widely becoming educated, but women continued to marry young and begin to have children.  However, as technology evolved so did the family unit.   Simply put, the more options create a culture of folks “wanting more & more”, obsessed much?

One theme prevalent throughout these centuries was that women did a great deal of “praying”.  The first “A” that hit the shores of the United States was a praying woman.  It was just as much a part of the job description for a woman, as learning other “womanly” responsibilities, childbirth notwithstanding.

Through the media available to Tutu A during her lifetime provides an unique perspective of how women have evolved, retracted, grown to great heights and how we can single handedly sabotage close to a lifetime’s work.  It happens, just like a movie, novel or television program, but messier.  All media glorifies whatever aspect of agenda the writer, director and producers choose.

Tutu A will post under this section whenever something of Women’s Evolution comes to light through the news, internet or television programming.  Life taught me that when a problem is presented, try to find a solution.  If you have any positive, enlightening comments or links to Women & Family Evolution, please feel free to forward.